Advice on Adopting an Older Child

My DH and I have the opportunity to adopt an older child (6 yrs) from Vietnam. He’s a little boy whose grandparents must give him up due to their advanced age. I’ve researched the Internet for articles on adopting older children and have found a few that were helpful, but not all that many. Do any readers out there have first-hand knowledge of the challenges of adopting an older child? For instance, would the child be required to go to first grade as soon as he gets here? What about the language issue? What is the (typical) procedure once the child gets home? Anyone know?



  1. kweenmama said,

    June 24, 2008 at 5:42 pm

    Wow, those are some involved questions. Having never adopted before, I don’t have any suggestions for you. Does the adoption agency you are going through have any helpful material?

  2. FoodyMom said,

    June 25, 2008 at 2:30 pm

    Haha. That’s funny. Sadly, communication only goes one way into my adoption agency. Questions go in, nothing comes out. Phone calls not returned. E-mails not answered. Yeah. I already asked them the question you had, but they will very likely not respond. Not the experience we had the first time around! Still looking on the internet, however….

  3. Nessie said,

    June 25, 2008 at 4:47 pm

    Please let me recommend this book: I know that 6 yrs. is way past toddler but, many of the same issues exist.

    Toddler Adoption, The Weavers Craft. Mary Hopkins-Best

    I would check with your school system about your school questions. Many places have a program for “English as a Second Language” kids.

    For you learn what ever Vietnamese you can, a few words can go a long way. And see about who might be able to translate in your area (for emergencies) but also for early Dr. visits.

    I wish you all the best!

  4. FoodyMom said,

    June 25, 2008 at 9:32 pm

    Thanks, Nessie! Great advice. I’ll check out all those things.

  5. Jill said,

    July 5, 2008 at 2:24 pm

    Hi Jeanne,

    Check out the link “Doubling Up” on my Dreams of Blue Roses website. It’s a blog maintained by a couple who adopted two older children (5 and 6) from Vietnam. They have some helpful advice on adopting older kids. Best of luck!

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